The Here and Now

living in the here and now

I won’t be sharing a poem in this post, something a little different for me. Instead, I felt like sharing some thoughts. I hope you enjoy and feel free to chime in, too! ♥

It’s so easy to let our minds wander into the future, worrying about what could happen. It’s not difficult, at all, to let anticipation of something negative impact our daily thinking. Anything is easy, as long as it’s the antonym of optimism. Would you rather think the worst to prevent disappointment, instead of thinking positively and probably having a good day?

I confess. I’ve had these moments. Then there comes a time when we have a choice to make. We can wear a frown, stay miserable, ruining not only our day, but days for those around us. Or we can turn the frown upside down, hope for the best and have a little faith that all will work out.

Yes, very cliche. I’ve experienced, though, truth in these words. If I carry a positive attitude throughout my daily routine, I find that things do work out in the end. Have I been disappointed? Of course I have. In fact, our family is still in the midst of catching a curve ball thrown to us last fall. I’d love to throw it back! Instead, we’re trying to dodge it to the best of our ability.

Last year, after researching what we’re dealing with, on the internet one night, I cried so hard I created a twitch in my right cheek. It lasted for about a week. Boy, did I really work those face muscles! Crying is not a weakness, but a cleansing of the soul. However, too much of it can cause havoc! Needless to say, worrying about something that hasn’t happened, that could happen, probably will, but we’re really not sure, is just not worth any more hairs to highlight!

So I’m learning to live in the HERE AND NOW even more than I did before. We have today. We have today only. We have no idea what tomorrow will bring or ten years from now, but we can be happy this very moment and carry a lighter load. We can make the best of the gift of life for us, individually, for our loved ones and for our friends. 

Someone very special once said, “It’s all about the Here and Now. I’m living my life for today.”

So I encourage you to Make Each Moment Matter, Each Day Count and Together, Lets Live In the Here and Now!

With love and smiles,


40 thoughts on “The Here and Now

  1. Hey Lauren I hope the twitching has gone and has left no pain in your cheek bone cos that does happen. and no crying is not weakness, howling it out flushes out a lot of toxins and provides us better perspective or hold on things.
    you are brave Girl, cos it is not easy to cope up with negativity day In day out and fight it and come out to spread some love and warmth around. The fact that you blogged about it tells me you are ready to fight with every thing you have. Your write up has that calmness that boxers spirit. somewhere your soul, your heart, no matter what the mind says has picked themselves up for the next round. bravo for that.
    just know that you will be in my thoughts, my prayers and the hugs I send you so often 🙂
    love ya for this

    1. Oh, Soma, what can I say? Your comment truly warmed my heart over and over again..thank you! I have to tell you that the twitching was from last year when we first found out the news. So, yes, it’s gone and there is no pain. I’m fine now, except, that we’re still trying to dodge the ball and living in gray, instead of black and white.I don’t do well at “not knowing.” I’d rather know, then deal…but, that’s not the case, so I have to deal with not knowing right now. 🙂 That probably doesn’t even make sense! Anyway, thanks for the hugs, too! They’re always needed and appreciated. It’s definitely been proof to realizing that living in the here and now is most important. Love ya, my friend, thanks for everything! ♥

  2. We’ve all had these moments.

    As father and husband, I’m careful about displaying my anxiety – in fact, I don’t. Taking stock of the worst-case scenario – if I can live with that – okay, I try my best to make it better but without worrying. If I can’t live with the worst-case scenarion – then I do everything humanly possible to blunt the negative and leave the rest to the Good Lord. Because one thing, I have faith in – HE will not burden me with something I can’t carry. It works for me – but perhaps not for all.

    Tears are cleansing and healing, I reckon. If you care to, Lauren, I wrote a post about crying here >

    Peace and blessings,

    1. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, too, Eric. I do have faith in Him, but I guess I have weak moments, too. All is fine, just living in the here and now! 🙂 I will check out your post, also, and thanks for linking it! Hugs and blessings!

  3. Uncertainty is very hard to deal with. I hope all works out well. I did a similar post recently about living life now. if you didn’t see it you might enjoy reading so here it is if you have time.
    Best wishes, and in case your wondering I was checking out if you had in fact “liked” it so as not to be bothering you with posting a link and in error I “liked” it myself. I am highly amused now sitting here!

  4. This is lovely Lauren, and although very personal you have made it totally universal. Words of optimism and encouragement for us all at a time when you are struggling yourselves as a family. Lots of love and hugs ❤HBL XX

    PS crying is good and very much ok. I am aware you already know this as you said it above but it always helps to have others’ input; strength can build by sharing the load and allowing others to share back; that’s how it works for me 🙂 xxx ❤

    1. Thanks, Chris, you always make me feel good with your loving comments…we’re okay, just living in the day and waiting…yes, crying is good, but be careful, that twitch was a little annoying! 🙂 I think I’ve shared my quota of loads with you and some other friends! Don’t want to over-load! 🙂 Lots of love and hugs back to you, too! ♥

  5. What a wonderful post Lauren and such good reminders for all of us. I am a chronic worrier and for all that worrying that I’ve done over the years, I have nothing good to show for it. It is a useless pastime and one we all need to let go of. Life is waaaay to short to contemplate what might happen, all the time. Or to worry about things that are beyond our control, that are part of the present.

    We were thrown one curve ball after another in the past 10 years and still not out of the woods yet. But I’m learning to ignore what I can about the present situation that I can’t change and to focus and do what I can, to make things now and in the near future, better. It’s very hard but it’s a lot more productive than the other route.

    Thank you for sharing this touching, heartfelt and most helpful post.

    You look beautiful in your hat!

    Hugs, G

    1. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been going through tough times, too, Geraldine, but it sounds like you have a great attitude! You’re right, just focus on what we do have control over! It’s easier said than done, but doable! 🙂 Thank you for your very kind words and your complement. I was excited to find a hat I liked at the county fair! Hugs to you, too!

  6. Oh Lauren. You made me cry~ Beautifully worded and so, so true. Big hugs to you my friend. I really needed to read this as I too have been worrying about life. I have been trying so hard to ‘live in the moment’ if I have too and really appreciate what I have in the ‘now’. I have lots! All the best my friend and lots of hugs and positive thoughts and prayers sent your way and I know they are being sent right back. 🙂 ♥ Renee

    1. Sorry, Renee, these tears can be addicting, can’t they? Thank you, my friend, for your tears, your hugs and your support. You are truly blessed, too, so stay in the “here and now” mindset. I appreciate your prayers, too, and of course, you’re always in mine, as well! Big hugs! ♥

  7. Hi Lauren, I hope that you get your answers and solutions as soon as possible, I may only be 19 but I have had worries to work through and medical tests looming overhead whilst trying to carry on as normal. Worrying about the worst wouldn’t have helped and would have been unnecessary as it turned out. Looking for the positive in the things that we can influence is what my parents have always taught me. 🙂
    My best wishes

    1. Thanks so much, Charlotte, for your insightful comment. My kids (18 & 21) sometimes, are smarter than we are, so don’t underestimate your thoughts at 19! 🙂 And your parents sound awesome, too! I appreciate your visit!

  8. I can relate. Really. I’m young but I’ve been through a lot. Sometimes I feel so old. lol
    “Carpe diem” is the best advice to me. We don’t know what the future holds so let’s have some fun RIGHT NOW. And let’s enjoy the little things. 🙂
    There’s a book I really want to read, called “Petit traité de l’abandon” and written by Alexandre Jollien, a disabled philosopher. I’m sure you would love it but there’s no English version yet… :s Love this quote (read it on the back of the book): “La joie conduit au détachement et non l’inverse”, which means “Joy leads to detachment and not the opposite”. And also “seule la joie nous libère” = “only joy sets us free”…. 🙂
    Have a nice day, Lauren.

    1. I would never judge you by your age, Cha…even my kids are smarter than us at times! 🙂 So thank you for your wise words and quotes, all truly important to live by and I do believe that joy sets us free! I’m sure I would love the book, but I’ll have to wait on the English version. 🙂 Thanks again, my friend, and I hope you’ve had a great day! xx

  9. Very lovely post indeed .. ..I think I gradually have started living in here and now ….and this post somewhere reminds of all blender of life each one goes through 🙂 …… Thanks for visiting my blog …Good luck with your work too 🙂

    1. Thanks so much, Vinita, it’s not easy, but I think the best to do…one day at a time. I’ll be over your way again soon. Thanks for stopping by here, too! Have a wonderful day! 🙂

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