Diddly-squat

On By Lauren Scott, AuthorIn Poetry

it could be a lunch at our favorite café
it could be a chat, laughter,
and stroll through the mall
it could be sharing a morning coffee
with a stunning sunrise
it could be gossip on the patio
it could be a Sunday dinner
it could be a weekend away
for mom and daughter…

but it can’t for now
as long as geography gets in our way
as long as circumstances dictate
so I’ll continue missing her,
comforting my hurting heart
until the next trip in the air.

i thought i’d get used to it
i thought time would heal
well, time has done diddly-squat
so, if i allow the distance
to take up residence in my thoughts,
i’ll just add one more ache
to my medical records.

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© Lauren Scott, Baydreamerwrites.com
This blog content cannot be used to train AI.
I was in a downer of a mood the other day,
missing my daughter and son. I’ve written
about both of them, so this one is for my
daughter, who has always had a sunflower
personality. 💜

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75 thoughts on “Diddly-squat”

  1. I know how you feel. My daughter is across an ocean and on the other side of Canada! I moved to Spain ten years ago and still miss her terribly. Your poem says it all. xo

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  3. Awww Lauren
    Big hugs my friend.
    I can only imagine how this feels 😪
    Hang in there 🫂💙🫂
    Thank goidness for Skype etc, but I know, not quite the same.
    Much love and oodles of hugs your way xoxoxoxo

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    1. Thanks for your compassionate words, Maggie. Most of the time, I’m okay. But now and then, these waves of emotion come over me, and then a poem happens. 🙂 Lots of love and oodles of hugs to you too, my friend xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo ❤️🤗

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      1. Lauren, no matter what age your kids are, they are still your baby right?
        You want to hold them tight, that is your instinct 🫂
        Your poem expressed your emotiona and I am sure every other mum here understands .
        Much love dear friend and warm hugs too 🥰❤️🥰
        Have a blessed Sunday xoxoxo

      2. You’re so right, Maggie. Age doesn’t matter when it comes to our children. Thanks again! Your words are comforting. I hope you have a wonderful week ahead. Lots of love and hugs coming your way too. xoxoxoxoxo

  5. I just talked to my daughter, cross the continent. She’s buying a house in Alexandria VA and happily still thought mom would have suggestions. I know what you’re talking about.

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    1. Will she be moving closer to you? I don’t remember where you live, Jacqui. If so, that is wonderful. Those phone calls and texts are great and do help. But it’s the ‘not seeing’ as often as I’d like that causes the ache. I’m glad you understand what I’m talking about. xo

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      1. I hope to see her at the holidays, but her job is crazy (as are so many). Thankfully, family is important to her and she stays in touch. Yours sounds the same!

  6. Think of the not so distant past when keeping in touch meant a posted letter and awaiting response. Or a cut short phone call- cut short- because they duped us into believing long distance cost more than local to provide. I know distance is still an obstacle- but how blessed we are to be distant today.

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    1. I get it, Violet, and I remind myself all the time. Most of the time, I’m fine, until one of these moments consumes me, along with emotions. I just miss seeing them both more often. But of course, we’re proud of them for paving their own paths. 💕

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    1. A friend told me that the first 100 years are the hardest, Balroop. This always makes me smile, especially through the tough times like these emotional moods I get in now and then. Otherwise, we talk or text all the time. I just miss seeing them more often. Thanks for chiming in, and I’m glad you get how I feel. xo

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  11. I think many parents can relate to these feelings, Lauren. Our son, daughter-in-law, and grandson live 2,000 miles away. On the other hand, I feel especially grateful that we have reasonably good health and the financial means to visit them. They just bought their first house last weekend. I’m sure we’ll see them after they move in September.

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  12. Aww, well Lauren I see you miss your daughter.

    My mom wrote on a card to me once-

    Across the miles so far apart, More important close at heart.

    I don’t know where she got it from.

    I’m not a mom, so I don’t know your pain, but I understand missing someone deeply.

    In the wake of Copper, I think it’s amplified.

    Take care, write and keep on loving!

    Resa

    xoxoxoxo

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    1. I love what your mom wrote, Resa, and it’s so meaningful. I’m not always like this, but these moments creep up on me, and then I ride the wave (and write). 🙂 Missing anyone deeply stirs the same emotions. Thanks so much for your beautiful words. You always know what to ‘say.’ Sending love and hugs! xoxoxoxoxoxo

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  14. ❤ aw, that is so hard, and I love how you've written this beautiful poem for her. I do have something that may cheer you. my friend has a friend who's daughter she is close to and her name is , CORA!, and I told her about my book and she is going to share my book with her and knows she will love reading about this sweet dear who shares a name with her!

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    1. Thanks for your lovely words and compassion, Beth, and thank you for sharing my book to your friend, allowing the ripple effect. There’s something about the same Cora, isn’t there? Your comment did cheer me up, and I truly appreciate it. Wishing you a serene Sunday. Hugs 💞

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  15. I’m in the same boat: two of my three children live either overseas —Vienna — or interstate . I used to go and see them at least once a year for a few weeks at a time ;now they come and see me : a few times a year. I know how it feels: phone them regularly, text, take an interest in what the grandkids do; you will find a way, Lauren; sending you hugs 🙂 🙂

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    1. At least you understand, John. I know I’m not alone, but it doesn’t make it any easier. We talk, text, and facetime often, and fly back and forth to visit, which is great, and usually sustains me. But now and then, these moments sneak up on me. Take good care. 🥰

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  17. Oof…
    “allow the distance to take up residence in my thoughts…”
    Such a powerful phrase right there…a reminder well-timed for this ruminating woman.
    Sending love…
    💕💕💕

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    1. Thanks so much, Vicki. It’s hard, but as long as they’re happy, healthy, and safe. That’s what matters most, along with making the best out of the time we have with them, and savoring the calls, texts, and facetime. I can’t avoid these moods though. They sneak up on me. Thanks for the love, and I’m sending some back to you too, dear friend. ❤️🤗

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